Tips for Getting Along with People at Work
a tight rein on your tongue
How you say something counts
for far more than what you say. How many times have you been chastised
on the job by your supervisor, and you walked away angry because of the
tone of voice used? When confronted with a difficult situation, always
say less than you think. Curbing your tongue in a stressful situation
will be more likely to create fewer stressful situations because how you
handle yourself in a crisis will give others confidence in you and in their
ability to bring problems and issues to your attention.
2. Be careful
what you promise to others
If you intend to make promises,
you had better be prepared to keep them, no matter what the cost.
The easiest way to lose the respect of others is by guaranteeing things
that you are either unable or unwilling to deliver. When you tell
someone that you intend to do something, it is your responsibility to see
to it that you follow through. Others will note an irresponsible
attitude and be wary of approaching you on any level in the future if you
continually break your promises.
3. Be kind
and encouraging to others
Never let an opportunity
to show kindness or encouragement to others to pass you by. Praise
good work, regardless of who did it. Sometimes you can turn even
the most hardened of your fellow workers into real softies once they realize
that you are not afraid to compliment them or give encouraging words, despite
how they may perceive you ordinarily. At the same time, when giving
criticism, do it helpfully and gently, never spitefully. Show concern
for another's feelings and well being. You will benefit greatly from
even the smallest kindness shown.
an interest in other people
Learn about others' interests,
their homes and families, and even their problems. Gaining the confidence
of fellow workers is made much easier when you demonstrate that you have
a caring attitude. When others are joyful, rejoice with them; when
troubled or in mourning, be sympathetic. Let everyone with whom you
have contact, no matter how humble, realize that you regard them as people
5. Be cheerful
We all carry a load of some
sort, and although the old saying "misery loves company" is still widely
held up as truth, keep in mind that making others miserable is truly a
disservice. Don't dwell on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments.
Maintaining a cheerful attitude at all times will not only make others
more comfortable in your presence, but you will feel better as well.
an open mind
Don't let yourself get into
arguments. Discuss things with people rather than argue. Being
disagreeable is likely to put others off; they will much prefer to deal
with those who have a calm and reasoned approach. When confronted
with a situation that you either disapprove of, or dislike, keep this in
mind: it is the mark of a superior mind that can disagree without being
7. Be mindful
of only your own vices and virtues
Refuse to discuss others'
vices or problems. Don't allow gossip to rule your life. Tearing
down another to prop yourself up is an extraordinary waste of time; furthermore,
it can be very destructive. Especially in the workplace, morale is
vitally important. When we lift our voices against others, we open
ourselves to the thought, "I wonder what they say about me behind my back!"
8. Be careful
of others' feelings
Humor at another's expense
is rarely worth the trouble. Not only that, the hurt and pain felt
by that person will often come when least expected. Take into account
another person's feelings before you poke fun. Things said in jest
are often the sharpest barbs to be felt.
9. Pay no
attention to what others say about you
Remember, the person making
snide or rude comments about you may not be well informed. Live in
such a way that what is said about you cannot be taken to heart.
Let your own actions determine how others see you, and that they will not
believe the negative things said.
worry about credit which is due you
Do your best. It's
the best you can do. Concerning yourself about how much credit you
receive will only burden you with more stress. Let others see your
work ethic, and you will be able to take pride and pleasure in a job well
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